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"A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears
and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!"
The Awakening, by Virginia Swift
| S | Simple | | U | Unforgettable | | R | Radical | | V | Visionary | | I | Insane | | V | Virile | | O | Outrageous | | R | Respectable |
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Walking the WheelFather to daughter, man to child,
wolf to pup
I was no sheep, but a cub
I am not weak.
Stronger for the pain -- for cold, hollow bite marks on my soul.
I
am the beauty, who has come through the brutal winter
Spring is abundant, fragrant and green.
Now I am the Goddess,
I
say who touches me when, how, and if.
I will be defiled no more by the whims of the predator
I walk through the wheel
of generations.
The piercing horror will not continue through me.
The curse conquered,
The wounds heal
For I
have Walked the Wheel and Survived.
Laura Law
 
  
THE TROLL AND THE GRIFFIN
(A parable
for survivors of domestic violence)
Like a troll training a griffin, your abuser weaves his spells on you from the very start.
Now, a fully-grown griffin can easily break the metal troll-chain encircling her ankle. But, trolls steal
griffins as hatchlings from their mothers' nests and clamp a chain above one foot. The baby griffin pulls and strains,
pecks and claws at the chain, all to no avail. After learning such helplessness, she eventually gives up trying
to escape. A full-grown griffin, in actuality, is chained only by what she has learned from the start, not
by the metal around her ankle.
(*adapted from Parables for Personal Growth by Melinda Reinicke)
 
STILL I RISE
MAYA ANGULU
(This poem was read at one of the first Battered Women's meetings I ever attended. It is dedicated
to my ex - my abuser)
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you?
why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil
wells
pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold
mines
Diggin' in my own backyard.
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
you may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in
pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and
wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in
the tide.
Leaving behind nights of
terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously
clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors
gave,
I am the dream and the hope of
the slave.
I rise
I
rise
I rise
 Domestic
abuse takes many forms. Following are examples of abusive behaviors.
Verbal Abuse
Does your partner say things that shame, ridicule, or insult
you:
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You’re
stupid, fat, ugly, etc.
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You can’t
do anything right.
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You’ll
never get a job.
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You’re
an unfit parent.
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You don’t
deserve anything.
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Who would
want you?
Emotional/Psychological/Mental Abuse
Does your partner do any of the following:
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Accuse
you of having affairs
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Keep
you from family & friends
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Confuse
you with promises & lies
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Take
your keys or damage your car
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Take
or destroy important papers
Does your partner alarm you or make you feel uncomfortable by mistreating your pet:
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Not allow
pet to receive care & food
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Intentionally
hit, kick or throw pet
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Injure
pet as a threat to you or your children
Financial Abuse
Does your partner control your ability to access money:
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Forbid
you to work
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Forbid
you to have money unless it is for a specific purchase, requiring detailed documentation after the purchase
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Require
that you give up your paycheck
Sexual Abuse
Does your partner do the following:
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Force
you to have sex
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Force
you into unwanted sexual practices
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Criticize
your sexual performance
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Force
you to have sex with others
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Withhold
sex & affection as a tool to manipulate your behavior
Physical Abuse
Does your partner do any of the following:
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Hit,
slap, shove, strangle, kick you or your children
·
Threaten
or hurt you with a weapon * Throw objects
at you
I Want To Be 6 Again.....
To Whom It May Concern:
I hereby officially tender my resignation
as an adult. I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities of a 6 year old
again.
I want to go to McDonald's and think
that it's a four star restaurant. I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle and make ripples with rocks. I want to think
M&Ms are better than money, because you can eat them. I want to play kickball during recess and paint with watercolors
in art. I want to lie under a big Oak tree and run a lemonade stand with my friends
on a hot summers' day.
I want to return to a time when life
was simple. When all you knew were colors, addition tables and simple nursery rhymes, but
that didn't bother you, because you didn't know what you didn't know and you
didn't care. When all you knew was to be happy because you didn't know all the things that should make you worried
and upset.
Since I matured, I’ve learned too
much. I learned of nuclear weapons, war, prejudice, starvation and abused children. I learned of lies, unhappy marriages,
suffering, illness, pain and death I learned of a world where men left their families to go and fight for our country, and returned only to end up living on the streets...begging for their next meal. I learned of a world where children knew how to kill ... and did!!
I want to be oblivious to the complexity
of life again and be overly excited by little things. I want to return to the days when reading was fun. I remember being naive and thinking that everyone was happy because I was. I would walk on the beach and
only think of the sand between my toes and the prettiest seashell I could find. I would spend my afternoons climbing trees
and riding my bike. I didn't worry about time, bills or where I was going to find the money to fix my car. I used to wonder
what I was going to do or be when I grew up, not worry about what I'll do i this
doesn't work out. I want to live simple again I don't want my day to consist of computer crashes, mountains of paperwork,
depressing news, how to survive more days in the month than there is money in the
bank, doctor bills, gossip, illness and loss of loved ones. I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word, truth,
justice, peace, dreams, the imagination, mankind and making angels in the snow.
I want to be 6 again.
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To Lead a Girl to Womanhood
Open her eyes
to the blessings around her
Show her that beauty and
goodness surround her.
Help her to trust in the future,
not fear it.
Teach her that dreams are the winds of the spirit,
Guide her with wisdom and
gentle persuasion
For she is a beautiful flower of creation.
How Does Domestic Violence Affect Children?
Children are the silent victims of domestic violence. Their voices may
not be heard & their pain often goes unnoticed. Every child from a violent home is abused. Witnessing the two most important
people in their life hurting & being hurt damages the core of the child's emotional being. The following is a partial
list of the ramifications & consequences for children living with & witnessing domestic abuse:
Pre-Natal effects may
include: increased miscarriages due to increased beatings and/or survivor's stress and
poor health
due to survivor’s stress & lack of proper nutrition.
Infant effects may include: crying & irritability, sleep disturbances, digestive problems and failure to thrive.
Toddler/Preschooler effects may include: being
more aggressive than other children, being more withdrawn than other children, impaired
cognitive abilities, delays in verbal development, poor motor skill abilities, general
fearfulness and anxiety,stomachaches and nightmares, lack of bowel & bladder control
(over 3 years old), and lack of confidence to begin new tasks
School Age effects may include: poor grades or in special classes, failure of one
or more grade levels, poor social skills, low self-esteem, general aggressiveness or violent outbursts of anger, bullying,
being withdrawn, dependent, bedwetting or nightmares, digestive problems, ulcers and headaches
Teenager effects may include: poor grades, fails or quitting school, low self-esteem,refusing
to bring friends home, staying away from home, tends to feel responsible for taking care of home & adult survivor, running
away from home, violent outbursts of anger, destroying property, abusing pets,
poor judgment, irresponsible decision making, inability to communicate feelings,
immaturity, nightmares, ulcers, digestive problems, severe acne
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Purple is for the bruises women have
sustained at the hands of their abusers.
Purple is to remind us of the hidden
secrets many
women
and children face daily, in they're nice warm pretty homes!
Hidden behind closed doors.
In a place they thought at one time would
serve as comfort and love.
These Women Could be:
Your Best Friend
Your Mom
Your Daughter
A Co-Worker
A sweet, quiet neighbor
YOU
There are many faces in domestic violence.
There is no stereo type situation
Strong Powerful Women
Stay at Home Wives and Mothers,
The President of the PTA,
The clerk in the grocery store.
A CEO in charge of a corporation.
The Woman Being Beat Can Be ANYONE!
The only trait this woman will have in common
with all the others is,
she know's all to well,
how to hide the abuse
from others.
She carries her scar's inside,
and hides the bruises from your eyes.
She needs to know
SHE DOES NOT HAVE TO WALK ALONE ANYMORE!
So often,
time and time again, a woman being
abused hides the abuse.
She is embarrassed.
She has very little self value.
It has been stolen from her, by her abuser.
She usually demonstrates low self esteem.
She feel's like a failure.
She walks alone,
afraid to let anyone in.
She feels no one will understand.
She feels worse yet,
that you will judge her.
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Why did God make mothers?
1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
2.
Mostly to clean the house.
3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.
How did God make mothers?
1.
He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
3. God made my Mom just
the same like he made me. He Just used bigger parts
What ingredients are mothers made of?
1. God makes mothers
out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
2. They had to get their start from
men's bones. Then they mostly use string, I think.
Why did God give you your mother and not some other mom?
1.
We're related.
2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.
What kind of little girl
was your mom?
1. My mom has always been my mom and none of that other stuff.
2. I don't know because I wasn't there,
but my guess would be pretty bossy.
3. They say she used to be nice.
What did mom need to know about dad before
she married him?
1. His last name.
2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
3.
Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?
Why did your Mom marry your dad?
1.
My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats alot.
2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
3.
My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.
Who's the boss at your house?
1. Mom doesn't want
to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goof ball.
2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff
under the bed.
3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.
What's the difference between
moms and dads?
1. Moms work at work and work at home, & dads just go to work at work.
2. Moms know how to talk
to teachers without scaring them.
3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real power 'cause that's who
you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friend's.
4. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.
What
does your Mom do in her spare time?
1. Mothers don't do spare time.
2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day
long.
What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think
some kind of plastic surgery.
2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.
If you could change one thing
about your Mom, what would it be?
1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
2.
I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me.
3. I would like for her to get rid
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WOMEN HAVE
Women have strengths that amaze men.
We carry children
We carry hardships
We carry burdens,
We hold happiness, love and joy.
We often smile when we want to scream.
We sometimes sing when we want to cry.
We cam cry when we are happy and laugh when we are nervous.
Women wait by the phone for a "safe at home call" from a
friend after a snowy drive home.
We keep the secrets told to us years ago and
never bring it up again.
Women have special qualities about them.
We are childcare workers, executives, attorneys,
stay-at-home moms, biker babes and your neighbors.
We wear suits, jeans, and uniforms.
We fight for what we believe in.
We stand up for injustice.
We are in the front row at PTA meetings.
We vote for the person that will do the best job for
family issues.
We walk and talk the extra mile to get our children in
the right schools and for getting our families the right
health care.
We write to the editor, our congressmen and to
"the powers that be" for things that make for a better life.
We don't take "no" for an answer when they believe
there is a better solution.
We can wipe a tear, cover a cut and pat you on the
back at the same time.
We eat a little so our children can have more.
We rush to school to pick up our sick child.
We stick love notes in their lunch boxes.
We can do without new shoes so that our children
can have them.
We go to scout meetings and are chaperones on class trips.
We go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
We don't make excuses for defending our family or friends.
We give a friend some money in times of trouble.
We love unconditionally.
We are loyal, honest and forgiving.
We are smart, knowing that knowledge IS power.
But we still know how to use our softer side to make
a point.
Our world consists of goodness, love and caring.
Women want to be the best for their family, their friends
and themselves.
We cry when their children excel and cheer when their
friends get awards.
We get teary eyed when others do great things.
We save our anger for the unjust and the insincere.
We tell people that need to be told to straighten up their act.
We lend our shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen and
a voice to make suggestions with
We are happy when we hear about a birth or a
new marriage.
Our hearts break when a friend dies.
We have so much sorrow at the loss of a family member,
yet we are strong when we think there is no strength left.
We can control situations that seem uncontrollable.
We can somehow find that needed energy when we are tired.
We can stay up a little longer to talk to someone
that needs a friend.
We will give up our favorite TV show to help with
homework or read a bedtime story
A woman's touch can cure any ailment.
We know that a hug and kiss can heal a broken heart.
We can make a romantic evening unforgettable.
We can bring out the best in our families, our children
and our friends.
We don't mind standing in the shadows.
We are not there to push, but to gently encourage.
We are the cheerleaders, the teachers, and the lovers.
We can whisper a kind word, scream a loud cheer,
and laugh away a fear.
We can mend broken spirits and give back self-esteem.
We can knit a family back together after a break or a loss.
Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes.
We live in homes, apartments, cabins and trailers.
We drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show
how much we care about you.
We have hearts that forgive and forget an injustice.
We have hearts that remember a kindness.
We have hearts that beat with loyalty and love.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin.
We can cry and laugh at the same time.
We can be sad and hopeful at the same time.
Women do more than just give birth.
We bring forth joy and hope.
We teach our children to dream and make goals.
We give compassion and ideals.
We come into a person's life and try to make everything better again.
We give moral support to our family and friends.
And all we ask for in return is a hug, a smile and for you to do
the same to people you come in contact with.
Women are leaders, but don't want followers.
We want people to grow into the best person they can be.
We want to touch you in a way that will make you share
your goodness with others.
One touch can turn a bad day into a better one.
One extra minute of time will make a child feel special.
Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.
-Author Unknown
One day in the Garden of Eden, Eve calls out to God.
"God, I have a problem!"
"What’s the problem, Eve?"
"God, I know you created me and provided this beautiful garden and all of these wonderful animals
and that hilarious snake, but I’m just not happy."
"Why is that, Eve?" came the reply from above.
"God, I am lonely, and I’m sick to death of apples."
"Well, Eve, in that case, I have a solution. I shall create a man for you."
"What’s a man, God?"
"Man will be a flawed creature, with many bad traits. He’ll lie, cheat, and be vain; all
in all, he’ll give you a hard time. But he’ll be bigger, faster, and will like to hunt and kill things. He will
look silly when he’s aroused, but since you’ve been complaining, I’ll create him in such a way that he will
satisfy your physical needs. He will be witless and will revel in childish things like fighting and kicking a ball about.
He won’t be too smart, so he’ll also need your advice to think properly."
"Sounds great." says Eve, with an ironically raised eyebrow, “What’s the catch?"
"Well ... you can have him on one condition."
"What’s that?"
"As I said, he’ll
be proud, arrogant, and self-admiring ... So you’ll have to let him believe that I made him first. Just remember, it’s
our little secret...You know, woman to woman."
Mr Right Application
Dear ________,
I regret to inform you that you have been eliminated from further contention as Mr. Right.
As you are probably aware, the competition was exceedingly tough and dozens of well-qualified
candidates such as yourself also failed to make the final cut. I will, however, keep your name on file should an opening become
available.
So that you may find better success in
your future romantic endeavors, please allow me to offer the following reason(s) you were
disqualified from the competition.
Check those that apply..
___Your last name is objectionable. I can't imagine taking it, hyphenating it, or subjecting
my children to it.
___Your first name is objectionable. It's just not something I can picture myself yelling
out in a fit of passion.
___The fact that our dining experiences to date has left MY wallet a little lighter, and
YOUR pants a little tighter!
___You failed the 20 Question Rule, i.e., I asked you 20 questions about yourself before
you asked me more than one about myself.
___Your constant e-mailing shows me you have TOO much time on your hands!
___Your legs are skinnier than mine.
___You're too short. Any son that we produced would inevitably be beaten up repeatedly
at recess.
___You're too tall. I'm developing a chronic neck condition from trying to kiss you.
___I find your inability to fix my car
extraordinarily unappealing.
___The fact that your apartment has been condemned reveals an inherent slovenliness that
I fear is unbreakable.
___The phrase "My Mother" has popped up far too often in conversation.
___You still live with your parents.
___Although I do enjoy the X-Files, I find your wardrobe of Star Trek uniforms a little
disconcerting.
___Your frequent references to your ex-girlfriend lead me to suspect that you are some
sort of psychotic stalker.
___Your ability to belch the alphabet is not a trait that I am seeking in a long-term partner.
___Your height is out of proportion to your weight. If you should however, happen to gain
the necessary 17 vertical inches, please resubmit your application.
___Somehow I doubt those condoms I found in your overnight bag were really necessary for
a successful business trip.
___I am out of your league, set your sights lower next time.
Sincerely,
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HERE'S TO A US – THE PHENOMENAL WOMEN
When we were in our younger days,
We weighed
a few pounds less,
We needn't hold our tummies in
to wear a belted dress.
But now that we’re getting older,
We can set our bodies free;
There's comfort of elastic
Where once our waists used to be.
And how about those pantyhose--
They're sized by weight, you see,
So how come when we put them on
The crotch is at our knees?
Yes, we may need to wear glasses
As the print's been getting smaller;
And it we know it wasn't very long ago
That
we stood a little taller.
Though our hair has specks of gray
and our skin no longer seems to fit,
On the inside, we’re the same old
us,
Just the outside's changed a bit.
On a positive note...
We’re learning that no matter what
happens,
or how bad it seems today,
life does go on, and it will be better
tomorrow.
We’re learning that you can tell
a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things:
a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled
Christmas tree lights.
We’re learning that regardless of
your past relationship with your parents,
we'll miss them when they're gone from
our lives.
We're learning that making a "living" is
not the same thing as having a "life."
We’re learning that life sometimes
gives us a second chance.
We’re learning that you shouldn't
go through life
with catcher's mitts on both hands
Because we need to be able to throw something
back.
We're learning that whenever we decide
something with an open heart,
We usually make the right decision.
We're learning that even when we have pains,
We don't have to be one.
We're learning that every day we should
reach out and touch someone.
People love warm hugs,
or even just friendly pats on the
back.
We're learning that we still have a lot to learn.
We're learning that people will forget
what we said, and people will forget what we did,
but people will never forget how we made them feel.
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I think if you asked any child about
the adults around them, they'd probably say we're a little wacky and seem to be stressed out a lot of the time. Here are a
few simple things they can teach us…
1. Nap when you're tired.
2. Eat when you're hungry.
3. Don't starve yourself, it makes you tired
and cranky. Eat little bits often to keep fueled up.
4. Stubbornly refuse to eat even one more
bite once you're full. If you're full after a few bites, gleefully throw the rest away.
5. Leave the table with a satisfied, full
belly and an eagerness to dive back into your delicious life.
6. Be picky and only eat foods you love. If
it doesn't taste great to you, clamp those lips shut and refuse to eat until something better is found.
7. Be in awe over how amazing and wonderful
your body is. Notice how it moves, hugs, plays, loves, heals, and enjoys life.
8. Run, jump, skip, play. Move your body because
it's so much fun and it feels good. Be amazed at all the incredible physical things your body can do.
9. Wear clothes that are comfy and that make
you feel good.
10. Appreciate the people around you for who
they are rather than for how they look.
11. Hang out with fun, friendly people and
stay away from mean, critical ones.
12. Feel great about yourself because, well,
why wouldn't you?
©2005 Nancy Hill
To My Children
This morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when
I feel like crying.
This morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is.
This morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take you to the park to play.
This
morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.
This
afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and leave the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.
This
afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy
you ice cream if he comes by.
This afternoon, I won't worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, or second
guess every decision I have made where you are concerned.
This afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies, and
won't stand over you trying to fix them.
This afternoon, I will take us to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal
so you can have both toys.
This evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you the story about how you were born
and how much I love you.
This evening, I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry.
This evening, I
will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all the stars.
This evening, I will snuggle beside you
for hours, and forget about my favorite TV shows.
This evening, when
I kiss you goodnight I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer; then I will thank God for you, and ask for nothing
else, except one more day....
Why
God Created Eve
10.
God was worried that Adam would frequently become lost
in
the Garden. (and never stop to ask for directions)
9.
God knew that one day Adam would require someone to
locate
and hand him the remote.
8.
God knew Adam would never go out and buy himself a new
fig
leaf when his wore out and would therefore need Eve to
buy
one for him.
7.
God knew Adam would never be able to make a doctor's,
dentist,
or haircut appointment for himself.
6.
God knew Adam would never remember which night to put the
garbage
on the curb.
5.
God knew if the world was to be populated, men would
never
be able to handle the pain and discomfort of childbearing.
4.
As the Keeper of the Garden, Adam would never remember
where
he left his tools.
3.
Apparently, Adam needed someone to blame his troubles on
when
God caught him hiding in the garden.
2.
As the Bible says, It is not good for man to be alone!
And
finally, the Number 1 reason why God created Eve...
1.
When God finished the creation of Adam, SHE stepped back, scratched her head, and said, "I can do better than that."
Things Only Women Understand
10. Cats' facial expressions
9. The need for the same style of shoes in different colors
8. Why bean sprouts aren't just weeds
7. Fat clothes
6. Taking a car trip without trying to beat your best time
5. The difference between beige, off-white, and eggshell
4. Cutting your bangs to make them grow
3. Eyelash curlers
2. The inaccuracy of every bathroom scale ever made
And the number One thing only women understand:
1. OTHER WOMEN
The Hole
Autobiography
In Five Short Chapters
Day 1
I walk down the street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in
I am lost
I am helpless
this is not my fault
It takes forever to find a way out
Day 2
I walk down the same street
i see that deep hole in the sidewalk
I pretend I do n0t see it
I fall in again
I cannot believe I am in the same place
again
Day 3
I walk down the same street
yup the deep hole in the sidewalk
I see it is there
I still fall in
it is a habit
My eyes are open
I know where I am
Day 4
I walk down the same street
deep hole in the sidewalk
I walk around it
Day 5
today I walk down another street
Sound Familiar? Nothing changes if nothing changes and the definition of insanity is repeating the same bad choices
over and over again.
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Female Laws To Live By
1) The female always make the
rules.
2) The rules are subject to change
at any time without prior notification.
3) No male can possibly know all the rules.
4) If the female suspects the
male knows the rules she must immediately change some or all of the rules.
5) The female is never
wrong.
6) If the female is wrong,
it is due to a misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the male did or said wrong.
7) The male must apologize immediately
for causing said misunderstanding.
8) The female may change her
mind at any time.
9) The male must never change
his mind without the express written consent of the female.
10) The female has every right
to be angry or upset at any time.
11) The male must remain calm
at all times unless the female wants him to be angry and/or upset.
12) The female must, under no
circumstances, let the male know whether or not she wants him to be angry and/or upset.
13) The male is expected to mind
read at all times.
14) The female is ready
when she is ready.
15) The male must be ready
at all times.
Our Victory Cry
There are real life vampires. No, not the ones who emerge from a coffin at night, with a black
cloak, slicked back hair and a hunger for your blood. The vampires that are real are the people (or person, if you're
lucky to know just one) who drain you emotionally and spiritually whenever you are with them. They are the people who
want your time, your attention, your energy, and possibly even your financial resources. They are the "users" and the
"takers" of this world. They walk around with a cape of "poor me" draped around their shoulders. These are very
dangerous people to have in your life, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, even physically, they will suck the life out of
you until there is little if anything left of you.
Although you cannot repel these vampires with garlic, a cross, or a stake through
the chest, you can protect yourself from them. Try not to spend more time with people like this than you absolutely
have to. When you have to be with a psychic vampire, protect yourself. Draw a symbol of safety around yourself.
Wear quartz jewelry, or carry a piece on your body to defend against your energies being drained from you. Most importantly,
learn to say "No" firmly and assertively. A confident "No" to a psychic vampire is akin to a stake in the chest. Ask
one of the Goddesses known for her "Don't mess with me" attitude to help you out and kick that vampire's butt!
(The Real Witches' Year Kate West Element 2004)
Dreams keep running through my mind
Reflecting memories of long ago.
Made in a land of fairy tales,
A place my heart longs for so.
Cut off from the rest of the world
With streams, and meadows to roam,
Viewed from a little girl's eyes,
A place that would always be home
A place where berries grew wild
Where rabbits and squirrels were seen
Where a racoon could be a friend
And deer played down by the stream.
A world where imagination made all come true
And a little girl could be a queen
Where daydreams were spun like cobwebs
But a world where everything wasn't what it seemed.
But every little girl has to grow up
And daydreams shatter in your hand,
You find the home you thought was your own
Is nothing but a simple piece of land.
The flowers don't seem to bloom so bright,
And fairy tales no longer come true,
For it is seen now through grownup eyes,
No longer the world that you knew.
But still...Somewhere in the back of my mind
That place will always remain
From all those memories long ago
To beckon me back time and again.
~~Written By Angie Olson~~
Top 4 Reasons Women Ride The
“Emotional Roller-Coaster”
by Dr. Shawn Byler
Top 4 Reasons Women Ride The “Emotional Roller-Coaster”
- Women have learned and are in the habit of being driven by the approval of others.
Most women allow the expectations of others to define them and therefore making the approval of others is responsible for
their happiness. This pattern gives others’ the power to make and take your happiness at any time. Approval seeking
steals your happiness and doesn’t allow you to ever get to know yourself, your wants, your desires, or your needs. A
total disconnect. Thus an up and down roller-coaster of emotions. Not a pleasant way to live.
- Women believe their achievements define their value. This belief causes several
problems. When you believe that you are defined by your achievements, you are unable to feel good about yourself or have strong
self-esteem unless you are accomplishing or producing which does not allow for down time, relaxation or free creativity. There
is no room for you to just be… you. You identify yourself as results. This way of living allows for little or no joy,
peace, or contentment because you are always looking for the next way to achieve. This is very different from healthy goal
setting. Attaching your value to your achievements will ensure that you will not exit your emotional roller-coaster.
- Women believe their children define them. Holding this belief can be very damaging
for the parent and the child. When parents (unconsciously) hold the belief that their children define them or give them value,
they will act in a way that pressures kids to perform at a standard they cannot match up to. Or parents try to force kids
to have goals that the parent thinks is best and disregard what the kid or teen wants. Parents with this belief tie their
sense of purpose to their children’s results or who they become. This will steal your child’s own sense of worth
because he/she will only feel good about themselves when they meet your standards and expectations. And quite frankly this
is not the unconditional love your child deserves. This is pushing your own agenda on your kids. Children, teens, and young
adults need some (increasing as they age) space to figure out what they want and what is important to them! Discover your
own identity and allow your children to do the same. Anything else will push your children away emotionally as they grow up.
If you depend on your children’s results (or your perception of what these results “should” be) you will
stay on the emotional roller-coaster!
- Women believe that their husbands are supposed to make them happy. Who of you
thought when you got married (if you are married), or perhaps moved in with a significant other, that, “this person
will make me so happy”? Or if you have experienced a divorce or a break-up, you may have thought, “this person
makes me so unhappy”. I am simplifying a bit, but the principal is true. The problem with this thinking is that if we
allow people to “make” us happy, then at any time that person can “take” our happy. Only you are responsible
for your happiness. You must create or develop an inner knowing that you are completely loveable, worthy, and valuable regardless
of who is or isn’t a part of our life!
You Said
You said you were afraid to go to a better place
until I took your hand.
You said that you were afraid
to try
until I convinced you that you couldn't fail.
You said you couldn't share your hurt
until I showed you
the scars on my heart.
You said you wished you could do things differently
until I convinced you that it wouldn't
change how I felt about you.
You said you couldn't fly
until I lifted your arms and blew confidence under your wings.
You
said you were too tired to go on
until I lent my shoulder to carry your load.
You started to say you didn't deserve.
I
said be still and know that you are special.
From the movie Enough...the scene between Slim (Jennifer Lopez) and her (PS - If you've never seen this movie - We can't control the universe. Suddenly the maid enters. You're distracted for an instant, and he hits you. To win, we must prepare, even for the impossible. We bend the universe to our will, but it will - Yes. You're down. Lying there. Seemingly beaten. But hear me. He's standing over you. He thinks And as sure as he's a coward, But because you know what he'll do...you're smiling inside.
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